I worry I settled down too early with my partner so I’ve joined a dating site

DEAR DEIDRE: I HAVE a partner and two brilliant little boys with her but I can’t help having the urge to look elsewhere.

I recently joined a dating site.

I’m settled down but my mates aren’t.. and I’m tempted to play the field

I am 28 and my partner is 26. Our boys are five and three and I adore them.

The problem is I feel like a married man when all my mates are single and partying.

Maybe I just settled down too early?

If my partner finds out what I’m up to it will break her heart but I am constantly fantasising about having some-one else.

Sex life is good but my mind wanders

I am hoping for a new lease of life. I feel excited but scared at the same time.

Family time is great and I love doing things with my partner but need something new.

DEIDRE SAYS: Do not underestimate the lasting damage you could be doing to your family.

Think carefully about what you have to lose and stop comparing yourself to your mates.

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The grass may not be greener on the other side.

Take yourself off the dating site, organise some babysitting and book some sexy weekends away.

You may find you have all you really need right now on your doorstep.

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