Initially I was really reluctant to try dating apps. I thought they were for people who couldn’t meet people. Then I had the realization that I am the person who can’t meet people on a regular basis. As a teacher, I am surrounded by 10 year olds all day. Then I stay after work and go home and sleep. On the weekends I spend time alone or my friends. I have found it is actually really hard to pick people up while you are out, especially because when I’m out with my girls, I want to be out with my girls.
So, without further ado, here are my experiences with the dating apps I have tried.
I found Coffee Meets Bagel on Facebook. I said, why not! It took me about 15 minutes to set up. I feel like it’s much more adult than say, Tinder, but also still pretty chill.
The thing I like most about this app is that it takes a lot of things into account about your personality, likes, and what you expect in others. It was easy to pick photos. You can get them off Facebook or Instagram or your phone. The app made me feel much more serious about dating (the photos I uploaded really show how lame I am at only taking selfies). You can easily go back and look at guys instead of on Tinder where once you swipe, your chance is gone. Unless you pay for the good version of Tinder. Daily, the app sends you your “bagels” which are like five dudes that have liked you. The more active you are on the app, the more daily bagels you can get. You can take or skip the bagel. It’s nice to be able to read more about people and also see their pictures. This app uses beans as a form of credits or whatever, but I have never run out of them, so I have no idea what they are for. After you skip through your bagels, which I often do, you can visit the discover page. This is where you can spend your beans. Say that I think someone is cute, I can spend beans on “liking” them. Then, if they like you back, you’ll be notified. Eh, I don’t really know or care how the bean thing works.
The bottom line: I like this app a lot. I think people are on here for actual dates, not hookups. I have talked to quite a few people on the app, but I have only gone on two dates. I will continue using it.
Oddly enough, my therapist suggested I use bumble. She said her daughter loves to use it. So, I thought, why not give it a try? You can create an account really quickly by connecting it to your Facebook. You can upload six photos from Facebook, Instagram, or your camera roll. It’s easy to set up a quick profile with an about you. It’s not nearly as in depth as Coffee Meets Bagel. The thing I first noticed about Bumble is that you swipe just like you do on Tinder and you match with people, BUT you (the woman) have to make the initial contact. The dude can’t, which was horrifying got me. I hate messaging first. AND – it gives you a 24 hour countdown timer and it unmatches you from the person if you don’t talk. So, that is what turns me off about Bumble. I already have high anxiety, so the countdowns and pressure of messaging first aren’t for me.
The bottom line: I have yet to set up any dates from Bumble. Probably because I never message first. I don’t really like the app, so I won’t use it again.
Oh Jesus. Good ol’ tinder. I have many Tinder stories. It was the first dating app I set up. It’s super easy and quick like Bumble. It allows a quick addition of photos from Facebook, Insta, and your camera roll. It’s super easy to set up an about me, even though you don’t need to write anything. As for Tinder, you get your unsolicited dick pics and horrible pick up lines involving vaginas. I initially got on Tinder for a hook up. Which is EASY. I met a dude and we hooked up for awhile, then he went crazy. I’ve gone on about five Tinder dates now, all but one or two turning out just eh. Ive actually had two really good experiences with dating on Tinder, and we have dated and still date after a few weeks.
The bottom line: I love Tinder purely for the entertainment of it. I really don’t know if it’s the best app for a long term relationship. But, as a guy referred to above said “I guess if we were more adult, we would get on Match.com.” True. But, lots of dudes I ask are on Tinder alone and actually want to use it to date.
The crazy thing about Hinge is that I was listening to NPR on the way home from work about an app that was created to compete with Tinder for a more adult dating experience. That app is Hinge. So I thought, well duh, now I have to try it. Within a week of creating a Hinge account, I had a date and I’m catching the feels. So. That’s a good sign?! Anyway, the thing I like the least about Hinge is that you can only use photos from Facebook profile pictures or Instagram. I don’t have an Insta and most people don’t change their profile pictures on Facebook that often, so all the pictures are either old or lame. So that’s the thing I like least about Hinge. BUT – the cool thing about it is when you scroll through people’s stories, you can like or comment on things about their stories. Instead of being pressured to talk to them, you can just like their photo. The stories are full of photos and little tidbits of information about the person. You are notified that someone liked or commented on something on your profile, and if you want to connect, you can respond to their comment or like.
The bottom line: I really like this app. Like I said above, I’m catching the feels and I HATE that. I will totally keep using this app. BUT after a three month trial it does start charging you like 10 bucks a month. I haven’t hit the three month mark using it, so I have no details about that for you.
Whelp. There ya go. Hopefully my time and effort will help you decide which dating apps are the best for you! My best-friend/ editor-in-chief said I should tell some stories about my dating app experiences – so look for that to come soon!